When we find our self engaging in unavailable relationships, it’s often because they’re familiar to previous relationships

When we find our self engaging in unavailable relationships (romantic as friends), it’s often because they’re familiar to previous relationships.

Despite the relationships are being dysfunctional, engaging in unavailable relationships can nurture patterns within us, and make us feel comfortable in their familiarity. Our subconscious mind loves what is familiar and dislike what is unfamiliar. This is why we can find ourselves living out recurring behavioral patterns, even though we have decided to stop an unwanted pattern or habit. We are simply attracting what is looping around in our subconscious mind.

Another aspect which is often in play as well, when we are engaging in unavailable relationships, is that we don’t get to be held accountable for our own emotional unavailability.

Treat yourself with care, dysfunctional patterns are learned behaviour founded on trauma-based believes which often are wired in from an early age as a survival mechanism. By working directly with the subconscious mind, you can eliminate trauma-based beliefs at the root and process blocks there is feeding unwanted patterns and behavior.